In the words of Gary Allen, “Life ain’t always beautiful. Sometimes it’s just plain hard.”
When someone you care about is facing tough stuff, it’s hard to know how to step in and show you care or know what to say. Should you say anything? What if you say the wrong thing?
Speaking from the place of going through a heavy, traumatic situation with a loved one, it can hurt more when nothing is said.
Simply asking about it is one of the easiest ways to show you care.
Here are a few easy, actionable ways to help a friend going through a hard time:
- Show up with food or coffee
- Sit with them in silence
- Send a card with a thoughtful handwritten note
- Give a gift card to a tasty restaurant that offers a to-go option
- Pray with them and for them
- Bring a furry friend over
- Send an encouraging quote or song
- Offer to run errands
- Ask about it and listen. It’s okay to not have a solution.
- Find an opportunity to give them a break (if applicable and appropriate)
Stormy seasons of life tend to leave us with deep, heart-changing lessons.
The very best thing you can do for someone is to consistently remind them you’re there, and remind them you care.
There’s no quick fix or timeline for grieving or coping. It’s one phone call or ‘I’m coming over’ at a time. It’s being gently persistent to they can breathe while letting them know they’re not forgotten.
Pick up a set of these Hey, I’m here for You Cards in the shop to keep on hand for when you have a friend in need of a little encouragement.